I’m truly a “special” case. I’ve been out on my own since the age of 20. My health gets an A+, my body firm and confident, but I can’t…I cannot cook. I know! I know! I’m not completely useless, I can whip up basic meals; sadly enough only Americanized dishes in spite of my Caribbean/Asian background (Kraft dinner anyone?).
I loathe being in the kitchen, the sooner I’m out of there, the better. My incompetence for culinary is so pathetic, that I am known for burning items in the kitchen at work (How hard is it to use a toaster oven Goddess?). I grew up with a hot nutritious home cooked meal on the table after school, everyday. Unlike many of my friends, growing up it was ingrained in my head that my schoolbooks were priority and not helping in the kitchen. I’ve had pity cooking lessons from friends, ex-boyfriends etc, and almost every time the lessons ends the same way, I get frustrated and sent out of the kitchen.
If I could manoeuvre my way around pots and pans the way I wield my pen, I would be content, but we are not all made equal.
Why the concern about the culinary?
I want to become Claire Huxtable one day! The smart-and-fine-as-hell-supermom, that woman could do it all! That woman was also a fictional character on an 80’s television show. [Blank stare]
To me a Woman’s role as the wife creates scary astronomical expectations. We are expected to look good, keep house, make babies, contribute income all while having a hot meal put on the table EVERY SINGLE NIGHT! Somethings gotta give!
I recently peeped that Beyonce, the superdiva/actress/singer/model/spokesperson/everything admitted that she is not anywhere near domestic, “When I’m home, I’m so lazy. I mean, I literally drop my shoes there. I can’t cook. Anything to do with cleaning, cooking, I’m just bad at it.”
I usually can’t relate to anything this woman says but I felt her on that one, well the cooking part at least. I’m all for sharing the load, 50/50, give and take. While I’m not Rachel Ray, I’ve got some Martha Stewart in me (just don’t leave me in charge of finances). I love cleaning and keeping house, any area outside the kitchen? Great. Thanks.
In the big scheme of things I know most of us eventually want to settle down, and start our own Huxtable clan, some of us already have. Fellas, how important is it for wifey to be domestic? Are you comfortable settling for a high maintencnce hottie like Bey? Or does Rachel Ray get your vote? Ladies, what do you make of the astronomical expectations put on us in the role of the wife?
I know that I am using celebrities as examples, but we all know a couple Bey’s and Rachel’s in our lives, I can guarantee it. As for me? Like I said in the beginning I am truly a special case. I wouldn’t classify myself as Bey or Rachel, I am me. And whoever gets stuck with me, will have to take this goddess as is.
GI,
I love this entry right here. I think it all depends on a guy and how he’s mother raised him. I can only speak for myself but I wouldn’t mind a woman that can’t clean the house or do the laundry but she has to be able to at least cook. I come from a house hold where my dad is straight up everything but the cook. As a kid people thought my moms was the best because she kept a OD clean house and when people would hear it was my pops they’d think I was lying or clowning.
Coming from that kind of household, I honestly would want a woman that has a balance of both. We are in the 21st century so these are times where everyone in the house needs to pull their weight.
All in all, the future wife has to be one half Martha Stewart and the other half a bombshell Nia Long aroura/appearance.
OMG did i write this in my sleep or were in you peeking through my kitchen window writing my biography?!?!
Not only can I not cook but i am a junk food junkie. I am perfectly fine with eating waffles or icecream for dinner. This has changed when my almost live-in boyfriend started spending the night… everynight.
He expexts a meal (whether i cooked it or not, but prefablly homecooked) when he gets home late from work. He is respectful of my work/school situation and also has his night to cook however there is nothing like the bond we have when we both enjoy the meal I made while talking about our day and watching Martin dvds at 12am.
With all that said… “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”
learn how to cook!
Thank you both for your comments!
I’m trying y’all, I really am…I mean I cook for myself now most of the time, because to eat out everyday is mad expensive..I guess my lack of skill is really a lack of confidence!
Funny enough I used to have a live-in boyfriend, and he didn’t complain about my cooking (not to my face lol), infact he loved my steak BUT as far as cooking caribbean food…need to start reading those recipie books lol
@Rosalie- Thanks for the encouragement, glad to know I’m not alone! I too can eat waffles 4 dinner- pass the syrruppp lolllll
@Black Bruce Wayne-”We are in the 21st century so these are times where everyone in the house needs to pull their weight.” agreed…I would not mind sharing the load, as much as i hate the kitchen, but slaving in the kicthen all day everyday- not my thing!
Girl I feel you.
I can cook… when I want to, but I can be a real perfectionist. If it’s not perfect I will want to throw it all away and start OVER!
I can clean… but when I’m done, I am usually cleaning “just enough to be clean” but … not enough to be sparkly clean… or so damn anal about it that I end up getting into details like the 5 Star General was giving a white glove test.
I teeter/totter back and forth. I really want to get on a schedule where I’m organized and clean… and can cook a little something and not feel frazzled.
Also I hate cooking in a dirty kitchen… and if I have to clean the kitchen before I cook, I don’t want to cook. …