Goddess Intellect: Why Didn’t He Call Back?

Why didn’t he call back “I sent him a text like 7 hours ago and I still haven’t heard from him, and I don’t usually call him, he calls me!

 Or “He gets off work at like 7:30 and usually calls me at 8:30 and now it’s 9:15, what’s up with that?” Or “He said he’d call me back yesterday and he never did” Or “Oh, that last time he had left his phone at work, so that’s why he couldn’t call me, but everything’s cool now. Really! It is.”

 Sound familiar?

I think it’s safe to say that almost every woman has been there, questioning and making excuses for a mate’s inconsistent phone call patterns. We try to reason with and manipulate the truth to the point where we may lose our appetites, get heated and cry a river. Between the times of the expected phone call to the realization of not ever receiving a call back or receiving the call late, we mentally pace back and forth, wondering why?

I spent a good hour and a half last night trying to school a young lady, who happens to be someone I care a lot about. She asked me to write this post, and hopefully the SHC family can be of assistance by sharing their thoughts, because family helps one another.

As much as I care for this young lady and try to school her on the dating basics, she ends up getting caught up in the same situations with the same calibre of men. More specifically her timing for discernment with the men she is choosing is next to nothing before she gets intimate. Usually shortly after she gives up the goods, these men show her who they really are, which result in increased arguments, inconsistent phone patterns, and a bunch of bullshit, period.

I believe that the “callback” is one of the most important factors in determining the direction or success of a new relationship. I mean we are all human and from time to time, we may not call back when we say we are going to, but if you have used any of the examples quoted in the beginning of the post repeatedly, it’s time to wake up.

The impressionable young lady went on to ask me why she didn’t receive the call back, by explaining her current scenario. Her new boy toy had taken her out a few times, within a four-week period, told her, “you’re mine, I like you”, complimented her rear assets repeatedly and made plans for an upcoming date on the weekend. I happened to be out this weekend with the young lady, and she kept checking her phone for the call even though dude told her earlier that he is hanging out with his “homies”, and could not give her a specific time for the alleged date.

Now that right there would give me the pleasure of deleting your digits. That is the first indicator that “he’s not that into you”. I went on to add that “homies” probably stands for miss new booty. As much as a lot of women want to feel sexually empowered to bed whomever, whenever, the reality is a lot of us are not keeping it real with our emotions. I don’t judge this young lady for getting a fast food helping of the D, but that quick helping is causing her heart and mind indigestion. We cannot realistically expect a man to come correct when he has already gotten what he set out to get. My advice to her and my fellow goddesses, take your time! Don’t front like you can handle something casual and then get upset when you don’t get the call back. Pay attention to the “callback” patterns, they are a clear indication of what direction your kitty should he headed in.

The post is geared towards women but FELLAS what are some reasons why you wouldn’t give a female the “callback”? Am I on point with my advice or should this young lady give dude the benefit of the doubt and keep the digits in her phone? Ladies, does giving up the goods too soon play a part in the direction or success of a relationship?

 Note: I have a lot of time on my hands and I’m more than happy to give advice on any topic you have, please do not hesitate to hit me up with any questions comments or feedback.

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